From Memorials

Your beach sunset – by Simone

My darling Thomas   Just as we have a beautiful beach sunset for your sister Bella’s sunset , we had one done for you as well. We had to wait more than 3 months for it to arrive but it was worth the wait! We are now going to have each of them beautifully framed and put up in our dressing room as the start of our memory wall for you and your sister.   Your mom loves you both, more than I will ever be able to put into words. xx Advertisements

2 months today darling boy – by Simone

My darling little Thomas Its been 2 months today since you entered our world and then so tragically left it to join your sister. My heart is still so heavy, any small thing setting me off in floods of tears. I got a tattoo on the inside of my left wrist after your sister died so that I would always have her name and her memory emblazoned on me, always with me. And so I have done the same for you, on the inside of my right wrist. An image of a mother and child, 2 hearts joined always, with…

A mothers eulogy to her son – by Simone

Today we had a private farewell to our son, Thomas. It was so very hard but I am glad that we did it. Here are some of the words I spoke, straight from my heart.   My darling Thomas   As we gather today to honor and bless you darling child of ours, my heart can’t help but be shattered into a million pieces.   You were a true blessing sent to us from Belsie, straight from heaven. A little person we had so desperately wanted but had almost been too scared to hope for. But hope I had. From…

Belsie’s Memorial Service Program

I miss you baby girl, so so very much. Today I am just attempting to have a day. I thought I should share your memorial program on here as we haven’t done that before. I love you xx Isabella Memorial Programme_1

Bella’s special beach sunset – by Simone

We received a gift today from the mom of a dear friend of mine, Cherri. Cherri has known me since I was 12 years old and had been wonderful to us over this time (as well as in other challenging times of my life). She always seems to know the right thing to say and through her own hardships and heartaches has really learnt how to be empathetic and how to reach out and help others. Cherri made contact with CarlyMarie (whose story is below) and had this very beautiful beach sunset for Bella captured for us.   We are…

Tree of Light – by Simone

As has become an annual tradition for my dad and step-mom, Shelbi, they sponsor lights at the Grahamstown Hospice Tree of Light around the festive season, in remembrance of those people close to us who we have lost. It is done in memory and celebration of life. Tonight the tree was switched on after the Carols by Candlelight service at the St Michaels and St Georges Cathedral and will remain lit over the festive period. In addition to lights for my mom, grandparents, Shelbi’s dad and grandparents, we have added a light for Bella and for Riley. Very specially, K&A…

Look what your mom did Belsie – by Simone

Look what I did baby girl – yes I know, as your Aunty Carol says “Wow, that is left field!!!”. Because it really is for me. But it just feels so right.   I now have your name emblazoned on my wrist forever and always!!!! You are forever in my heart and on my mind, but I also wanted you physically on me always, as my constant declaration of being your mom. From the day we conceived you I became your mom forever, and even though you are not physically with us on this earth anymore, you will be with…

A father’s eulogy at his daughter’s memorial service…. – by James

Simone (my wife) You mean more to me than life itself your grief now like an arrow through my heart. I love now more with all my might holding you close deep into the night. I will let you grieve in your private space be patient and gentle by whatever it takes. We will find together in time some peace To lay our special girl to eternal sleep. We will share the pain and wipe away the tears and be a rock to each other when we wake in fear. I will cherish you my dear sweet darling wife until…

A mother’s eulogy at her daughter memorial service…Monday 21 September 2015

James and I have been constantly humbled over the last few days by the outpouring of love for us and our family. I look out today and am humbled once again. Until this point I have not really understood the power of community but I get it now. Thank you to everybody near and far for everything, it’s too much to put into words. After being told we could never have children we thought that Murray was our only gift, our precious little boy, his daddy’s mini-me. And lo and behold 7 months later we were blessed with me being…