My angel child, I feel like my heart is shattering into 1000 pieces. I miss you tonight with a hurt I didn’t know was physically possible to endure. I keep on seeing that beautiful, happy, shining face of yours and then I remember that I will never get to kiss you or hold you again and the pain is too much. I feel like a million daggers are being stuck into my body and someone is trying to rip my heart out my chest. I long for you, my entire body aches for you. The waves are rolling in, over…
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.” ― William Shakespeare, Macbeth
By Recover the gift
I am fellow traveler on life's often tumultuous roads. I have lived and worked through several life changing traumas and experiences which have shaped my path. I strive to help others overcome adversity and lead fulfilled and flourishing lives.
I have a special interest in Addiction Education and Recovery Coaching, Grief Counselling and general positive life orientation.
Waves – they are big today… – Simone
“I wish I could say you just get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole in me whenever someone I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to “not matter” I don’t want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. As for grief, it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage…
A letter to my little girl from your mom, a month after you left us – By Simone
My darling, precious baby girl, my Belsie You left us a month ago today and I miss you with a yearning I didn’t know was possible. It’s been 30 days, long days and nights, and yet for the most part I don’t think the reality of your leaving us has sunk in at all. Most of the time I feel like I am floating above the world, in a bubble, watching what is going on from a far. I actually went to acupuncture this week and she told me that there was still a lot of shock in my…
How can we help our bereaved friends and family – by James
Many of us struggle to know what we can do for people who have suffered loss. Part of the wonderful support we have been receiving has been through daily dinners delivered to us by our caring community. This was made possibly through a website called https://www.takethemameal.com created by a person in the U.S. who themselves lost their spouse. It’s a simple to setup food calendar where people can put their names to dates and then deliver food to the bereaved family. I will in future be building a website for our NGO Isabella1509 which will include helpful information and several ‘helping…
Open your Heart – by James
When you walk your road of darkened skies, your saddened soul swims through my eyes. Remember that your departed loves you, your silent mourning not the glue. When you hold your tears and do not speak, your grief remains you always weak. When your ship is righted so you think, your mind will darken you’re on the brink. When you say its fine to all who ask, but you’re really not an empty cask. Your pain needs voice your hurt is real You need to feel and talk to heal. Remember that the world is good, And people will love…
A comforting thought – from Simone
A very comforting thought shared with us by our friend Richman Nghona who also sang Amazing Grace so beautifully at our Belsie’s memorial service. “In Hinduism, they believe that when a soul is at it’s most refined but has one last ‘life-perfecting’ task to do, it returns again for a very short little life. The parents are specifically chosen by that soul to help it realise its completion, and then it moves on. It is considered an honour to be chosen for the duty of assisting…and in return, the parents are so much more blessed with a deeper knowledge and…
A letter from Heaven – by James
This comforting poem was sent to me by my dear friend Memre who has been so very kind to us during this time. thank you Memre A LETTER FROM HEAVEN When tomorrow starts without me and I’m not there to see; If the sun should rise and find your eyes and filled with tears for me. I wish so much you wouldn’t cry the way you did today; while thinking of the many things we didn’t get to say. I know how much you love me as much as I love you; and each time that you think of me,…
Love – by James
This verse was sent to me by my dear friend Tyron Richards, it has brought him comfort in his dark days. We all know it in some form or another but reading it again now re-emphasizes to me the importance of love. one love James 1 Corinthians 13 13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move…
A poem to my daughter 2 weeks after her passing – by James
My Belsie When dawn breaks every day I think of you in heaven at play, with god and our departed loved ones, sitting on mom’s lap with cuddles far from done. When I look up at the stars, my heart burns bright fiery white scarred, remembering your smiling face, never now gone without a trace. When slumber takes me every night I pray now with all my might, that your special mom will find the peace to create her life’s new lease. When boysie calls your name, I feel a strangling strain, He’s too young to understand why, Your daddy…
A father’s eulogy at his daughter’s memorial service…. – by James
Simone (my wife) You mean more to me than life itself your grief now like an arrow through my heart. I love now more with all my might holding you close deep into the night. I will let you grieve in your private space be patient and gentle by whatever it takes. We will find together in time some peace To lay our special girl to eternal sleep. We will share the pain and wipe away the tears and be a rock to each other when we wake in fear. I will cherish you my dear sweet darling wife until…
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