When we hear that someone has lost a family member and specifically a child we are often times lost about what to do or say. When you experience a traumatic and sudden loss of a child you start understanding the varied responses that people give to your loss. Some people are naturally carers and know instinctively what to say and do. Some people are so torn up themselves they cannot call or approach you because it’s just too much. Others adopt an avoidance approach where the subject is not broached at all, possibly mistakenly thinking that the person wants to…

I was sent the link to this piece by Tim Lawrence (http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason) by Brad Eaton and then by Simone. Its a great read about the harsh reality of grief and the responsibility one needs take in getting through it. Tim also speaks about how to help the bereaved. Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason October 20, 2015 by Tim Lawrence I emerge from this conversation dumbfounded. I’ve seen this a million times before, but it still gets me every time. I’m listening to a man tell a story. A woman he knows was in a devastating car accident; her life shattered…

A very comforting thought shared with us by our friend Richman Nghona who also sang Amazing Grace so beautifully at our Belsie’s memorial service. “In Hinduism, they believe that when a soul is at it’s most refined but has one last ‘life-perfecting’ task to do, it returns again for a very short little life. The parents are specifically chosen by that soul to help it realise its completion, and then it moves on. It is considered an honour to be chosen for the duty of assisting…and in return, the parents are so much more blessed with a deeper knowledge and…