My second post after Belsie’s passing…. – by James

by Recover the gift

“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.”

― William Shakespeare, Macbeth

In losing our dear Isabella I have, as I said in an earlier post, reflected deeply. I have realised how privileged Simone and I have been to have the love and support of so many people in our community. I have also realised importantly that we have not had to worry about the simple things in life which many of us take for granted. We have not been hungry, cold or lonely at such a devastating life juncture or had to just carry on as if nothing happened. I have been thinking about the hundreds and thousands of less fortunate people out there who have to face life’s harsh daily battles on top of soul destroying loss. The loss of a child and the grief you experience and have to process thereafter is universal though. Both Simone and I have been what can only be described as practical through this tragedy. We have started seeing councillors, taken medication where needed and simply allowed people to love and support us. Many out there are simply not provided with or do not seek the type of care and counselling needed to find peace with this type of loss.  I have personally been seeing a fantastic grief councillor which is really helping me.

I have for many years sought a charitable output to which I could contribute and make a difference to in our society. My empathy and intended purpose out of this experience is not confined though to poorer communities.

The loss of a child is felt by every parent with the same depth of fear and helplessness.

I will therefore in the next few months be founding an NGO called “Isabella.”

The mission will simply be; “to raise funds for an organisation or organisations, which provide prayer, comfort, care, love and support to any person or family, at the loss of a child.”

James Simone Lowe Blanckenberg

“When you look back with regret, that (regret, loss) becomes your focus.

Then your focus directs you: you go back to that – again and again.

Choose a new rudder: Look forward now – and focus on your passion with joyful anticipation.

Then your passion will fill the empty space of your loss…and where you land up will amaze you!”

― The Truth AD Infinitum